Dating website stalkers
Don't sabotage your chances of happiness by digitally stalking a potential new partner.I want to share a story about what I call "dating site stalking." This term applies to someone who consistently and obsessively checks the profile of a person they've met and begun dating. It seems simple enough: to check up on the person they're now dating and communicating with on an ongoing basis. The last time I encountered this problem I was two months (and seven dates) into seeing a man I was wild about. Raise your hand if you know what I’m talking about.Checking out potential partners online is a way of saving time, energy and money.Not to mention the skills we’re developing will surely be useful in later life. But over time, this addiction can have devastating effects on your personal relationships, not to mention every other aspect of your life, when you examine the bigger picture.In order to better illustrate my point, I have a client who has given me permission to share her story.
Plus, when you visit his profile, you feel connected, and that makes you all warm and fuzzy, right? As a woman, one thing that makes us feel safe, loved, and sane is connection with the people we care about.
Cyberstalking is like a virus: the victim is unaware when contacting the source and it brews secretly until it suddenly erupts.
Then it starts spreading quickly, infecting other parts of the body. The trigger word for stalkers is usually a no, or a gesture of refusal.
Dating site stalking is an addictive form of self-sabotage that frequently gets overlooked.
Few people know or talk about it, and there are no 12-step programs or support group meetings.